A smile or a "hey" DOESN'T mean "can I sleep with you?"

Just because a guy writes you an email doesn't mean he wants to get in your pants.

Immediately coming to that conclusion could mean:

A. You have a past full of people trying to have sex with you. If that's the case, you might want to check a few things regarding how you're approaching yoru goals. 

B. You assume too much. Assumptions are often incorrect. Not a good idea.

If you're assuming everyone who reaches out to say hey is trying to treat you as a sex object, a fling or fantasy, you're eliminating possibility from your future. What's the harm in that? You may be turning off that one guy who might be THAT ONE. This of course presumes that you're making right choices about where to find that guy, or more important "how" to find that guy.

Every single time I send an email on URNA, I'm seeking to make friends. Yes, my profile describes the awesome situation my fiance and I have created for ourselves, but that doesn't mean I'm out trying to get in the pants of every person I meet! Jeez.

Some men have integrity. If you're not running into those kinds of guys something's wrong in your approach (beginning to get the message?).

Obviously, if the message is a cock pic or a one-liner, chances are you should be prudent. If the guy's sharing something relevant or interesting, maybe he should get the benefit of the doubt? 

Even if you don't like the guy, being cordial is cool. Why? You never know from which direction THAT GUY may come. 

Stay open and be positive!